Nigerian columnist, philanthropist, writer, publisher and founder of Genevieve magazine, Betty Irabor is of the assertion that it is better to remain single than to be in an unhappy marriage.
According to the renowned publisher, the societal pressure to marry at a certain age is one of the reasons there is more divorce and unhappy marriages.
She dished out the advice to prospective couples on her page earlier this weekend, as she shared a message she got from a distraught wife asking for help over her turbulent marriage.
Betty Irabor further stated that, it is better off to remain single than marry and become miserable.
She indicated that before couples marry, it is prudent that they see a counselor because “if you marry in a haste you will repent at leisure”
Betty shared the message she received from the distraught wife;
“Good afternoon ma. How is your day? Happy to be a follower. Please I have a relationship issue. Don’t know if you can help me share this but anonymously. I married out of desperation and pressure.”
“It’s been 16 months of torture for me emotionally. I don’t love my hubby. Not even a bit. I have tried and prayed. It ain’t working. He is actually not my ideal man. Everything about him pisses me off. I can’t stand it anymore. He isn’t working but that isn’t my problem. We were wedded in church.”
Below is the response by the writer;
“She needs our advice! Personally, I think this whole idea of succumbing to societal or peer pressure to marry before a certain age is one of the reasons there’s more divorce and unhappy marriages and in some case mental illness.”
“I believe it’s better to stay single than marry and live unhappily ever after.”
“If this lady is as miserable in her marriage as she says, she should work towards getting out. It’s better to be single and happy than married and miserable as in this case. I advise that they should both see a marriage counselor…but once again, let me say this loud and clear, if you marry in haste you will repent at leisure…”